2) on Quit no Save, even after selecting not to Save a second time, the pointer flips to show WRITING TO DISK which was surprising and also seemed not quite as one might expect

This disturbed me too, but I think this was always there, all Pharo versions and even on Squeak.

I fixed it�

https://pharo.fogbugz.com/f/cases/12612/Do-not-show-image-save-mouse-icon-when-quit-with-no-save

The reason was that it has

Cursor write showWhile: [
Smalltalk
snapshot: save
andQuit: true.
]

so it uses the write hand even when save is false.

Marcus